'You have no remorse' : Husband Dips During Family Emergency, Sends Tipsy Selfie to Assure Wife He Made It Safely to his Party

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    Font - Posted by u/PrettyHateMachinexxx 9 hours ago AITA for flipping out on my husband via text after he let his phone die during a family emergency?
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    Font - So I (34F) and my husband (35M) had a plan this weekend that he would be the next state over for a college reunion while I stayed home with our 1 year old baby.
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    Font - All is fine and well until yesterday right before he was leaving for the party that was at a bar and I got an unexpected call from my parents who also live out of state. I am a nurse so they were asking what they should do with my grandma who called them stating that she couldn't feel her foot and that she was in excruciating pain. I told them to
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    Font - take her to the ER immediately and they said she couldn't walk so I told them to call an ambulance. I called my husband right after and the last update that I gave him before his party was that they were transferring her to another hospital for emergency surgery for a life threatening condition. I was
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    Font - waiting anxiously at home when the surgery was taking way longer than expected (>3 hours).
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    Font - My husband hadn't checked in at all. I got a text from a number that I didn't know that was a drunk selfie of some guy and my husband, with zero context. I texted my husband and said that I was worried sick about my grandma and didn't appreciate getting texted drunk selfies from random people. Heard nothing. After an hour I texted the random number and asked if my husband's phone had died and he said "Yes
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    Font - Here's where I may be TA, I texted back "Cool, my grandma is still in emergency surgery ". I never got a reply to this. About 4 hours later when my grandma survived and was transferred to the ICU I texted my husband how much he had let me down. This
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    Font - turned into a fight where he believes that he he did no wrong because "I knew he was looking forward to this party for two months and he couldn't do anything anyway". I blew up and told him how irresponsible it was for him to get drunk and let his phone die while I was alone with our baby during a family emergency. He apologized for
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    Font - not "checking in more" to which I corrected that he didn't check in at all (not even the next morning) and he says that he "Did his due diligence in making himself reachable" and I said that a random number texting me a drunk selfie does not count as him telling me that his phone was dead and that's how I should reach him. He said the name of
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    Font - the bar in passing a few times but I couldn't remember the name and I did not know the name of his hotel. He says I'm just overreacting and it's not a big deal because "it's not like he could do anything from another state" and that he did no wrong, seeing his friends was important to him and a lot of them he hasn't seen in 15 years and that he shouldn't have to disrupt his plans to "cater to me". I didn't
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    Font - ask him to take the next flight home just be available or communicate that he wasn't. I told him that I was afraid and he could have at least checked to see if I was okay and that it also isn't okay to let your phone die when someone else has your child even without an emergency. So, AITA for flipping out on him?
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    Font - ETA that the emergency happened right before the party so he was sober at that time and aware that the situation was touch and go. I called him immediately after I had my parents call 911.
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    Font - EatThisShit 3 hr. ago Partassipant [3] ● He may not have been able to do much for OP's grandmother Which imo isn't even the point. OP asked him for emotional support, that's literally all she needed from him. Even a text with "I'm sorry honey, I hope she'll be fine" and an emoji on
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    Font - updates would have done the job (though a call once or twice would have been better). OP would have felt heard and seen, and after that, he could have gone back to partying. If you're a couple, you're there for the other when they're in need. If you can't do that, why would you expect a partnership?
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    Font - LadyBladeWarAngel 3 hr. ago • I did say that too. In fact I said he may not have been PHYSICALLY able to help, but he should've been able to emotionally support her. I personally think he turned off hus phone on purpose. Too convenient that the unknown friend got his wife's number.
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    Font - Educational Tangelo6. 2 hr. ago I was so mad when I got to the part where he said there was nothing he could do from another state. He could have CARED.
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    Font - DragonCelica 1 hr. ago Partassipant [1] No empathy. No sympathy. No compassion. No concern. And no remorse.

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